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Archive for April, 2014

What Drives us? Your drive may be fueled by something unexpected by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

Posted by admin 10:38 pm, 30 April 2014

 

Being successful provides rewards, and the stimulation intrinsic to being driven can result in the self-perpetuating nature of such behavior. However, financial, personal, or social gains from success, as well as any addiction to the high of your own drive, may be only a small part of...

Five Ways Emotions Guide Teens to Academic Success PART II by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

Posted by admin 10:31 pm, 30 April 2014

 

Emotions are indispensable tools in social interactions.  The information they can provide when you are able to understand and interpret them is essential to social success. In a previous blog I summarized some of the psychological research involving emotions that can help a teen achieve...

Five Ways Emotions Guide Teens to Academic Success by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

Posted by admin 9:07 pm, 23 April 2014

 

Emotions contribute significantly to your intelligence and your ability to navigate through your life. Understanding your emotions is essential, considering the information they can provide, the ways in which they affect the decisions you make, how much they determine the ways in which...

Why would we stay with love that is impossible? by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

Posted by admin 8:53 pm, 23 April 2014

 

 

Impossible love is shaming. Shame experienced in impossible love is not ordinarily how you would expect shame to feel. As I’ve noted in other posts that have to do with intimate relationships, in such situations shame is felt as disengagement, as a letdown, a disappointment,...

Shame: A Hidden, Unhealthy, and Powerful Emotion Published on April 17, 2014 by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

Posted by admin 9:49 pm, 16 April 2014

 

As a self-conscious emotion, shame informs you of an internal state of inadequacy, unworthiness, dishonor, or regret about which others may or may not be aware. Another person, circumstance, or situation can trigger shame in you, but so can a failure to meet your own ideals or standards...

When holidays remind children of their lost ones: How we can help them cope with loss and grief by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

Posted by admin 9:26 pm, 16 April 2014

Happy memories of holidays can be overshadowed by memories of loss in a child’s life. A previous experience of grief–the death of a significant person, the loss of a pet or a close friend, the loss felt as a result of a parents’ divorce, or the loss of a home due to parents’...

Activating your Behaviour

Posted by admin 3:16 am, 14 April 2014

When feeling depressed symptoms such as tiredness, decreased motivation, indecisiveness and loss of interest in previously en joyed activities can lead to inactivity, which often reinforces feeling depressed in the first place. It is also common when feeling depressed to neglect everyday responsibilities...

The Importance of Being Mindful …

Posted by admin 3:48 am, 6 April 2014

Recently I have been reflecting on the importance of the skill of mindfulness in so many therapeutic modalities. Over the past two days some Mindright colleagues and I have been attending a conference that is being run by Dr Marsha Linehan, the mother of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), an American...